San Bernardino Valley College

Summer and Fall 2009

FKCE Program

 

 

 

 

 

For general information regarding workshops in this booklet, please call (909) 384-4457. All of the classes listed in this schedule meet the criteria for San Bernardino County’s emotional behavioral training and for Los Angeles County’s “D” rate training. All training must be selected based on the individual needs of the foster/kinship child. Please discuss any additional training issues with your Department of Children’s Services (DCS) worker or the Specialized Care Facilitator as needed. For Specialized Care Rate information for San Bernardino County, contact Marlen Kellas at (909) 891-3613.

 

 

 

SUMMER TRAINING 2009

 During the first two weeks of the summer program, we will focus on ourselves as caretakers. We will be exploring such topics as what makes us tick as caregivers, what moves us to get involved in fostering, and particularly in the case of kinship, what are the hidden emotions that “boil” up in having to unexpectedly provide care for our grandchildren or children of other extended family members. We will also be learning how to effectively connect and work with the foster care system.

During the second two weeks, we will focus on foster children and foster teens. We will examine the challenges involved in establishing a parent-child relationship with the children in our care and a relationship that will support them in facing broken attachments and grief and loss. We will also examine a relationship that will create in them openness to the positive structure we create in our home, and a relationship that will allow them to have hope for their future.

Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday morning trainings will have two components: THE MOVIES and CONVERSATIONS.

On Tuesdays and Wednesdays, we will view films pertinent to our vocation as caregivers.

On Thursdays, we will discuss the films in depth. 

 

The summer program is designed for you to acquire extremely important “awarenesses” about yourself and the foster children and foster teens as well as provide you with the necessary skills to begin those important conversations. The summer program is also designed for all of us to have FUN! So come to class, learn some POWERFUL skills, get your hours, and HAVE FUN.

 

***JULY 2009***

 

TUESDAY JULY 07, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

MOVIE – THE VISITOR

Participants will view a feature length film. While viewing the film, participants will have a copy of the discussion topics outlined above.

 

WEDNESDAY, JULY 08, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

MOVIE – THE READER

Participants will view a feature length film. While viewing the film, participants will have a copy of the discussion topics outlined above.

 

 THURSDAY JULY 09, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

CONVERSATIONS

Participants will identify the specific issues addressed in the films and also identify the specific emotions that were stirred up for you as a participant. Then we will explore our “track record.” What kinds of conversations do we have with the foster children about these issues and the emotions they stir up? Are they helpful conversations? Do they draw the foster children closer to us or push them away? Do our conversations leave them with the sense that we are like all the other adults in their lives who are only interested in controlling and changing them? Or do the conversations give them the sense that we are walking along side of them or perhaps carrying them as described in the Footprints poem? Or worse, is our track record one of avoidance? Are we too uncomfortable to have such conversations, so we just don’t?

Participants together will generate very specific scripts for having conversations about the issues and emotions stirred up by yesterday’s film. Participants will have an opportunity to practice the scripts with each other. Participants will have an opportunity in subsequent classes to report back on the effectiveness of the conversations and make revisions.

 

MONDAY, JULY 13, 6:00 P.M. – 9:00 P.M.

DOG DAYS OF SUMMER

“There’s nothing to do.”…“I’m bored.”…“How come we never go anywhere?”…”All the programs on television are repeats.”…“The Smiths went to Disneyworld for their vacation.”…“Will you play with me?”…When do we go back to school?” Do any of these statements sound familiar? Although children often look forward to the summer months since they have no school, they also don’t know what to do with themselves to constructively fill their days and their time off. Caregivers are encouraged to attend this class where we will discuss strategies to help children spend their summer time engaged in enjoyable pursuits such as reading, star gazing, camping in the backyard, starting a hobby, gardening and other activities.

 

TUESDAY JULY 14, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

MOVIE - DOUBT

Participants will view a feature length film. While viewing the film, participants will have a copy of the discussion topics outlined above.

 

 WEDNESDAY, JULY 15, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

MOVIE – THE GREAT DEBATER

Participants will view a feature length film. While viewing the film, participants will have a copy of the discussion topics outlined above.

 

WEDNESDAY, JULY 15, 6:00 P.M. – 9:00 P.M.

LIAR, LIAR, PANTS ON FIRE

Children learn from adults how to relate to others. When they are taught to “fudge the truth”, cover up their feelings and outright lie, a serious disservice is being perpetrated against them. Not telling the truth begins with families of origin, occurs among classmates, with caregivers, family members and others in the child’s life. More importantly, children lie to themselves, which is probably the most detrimental issue of all. Sometimes, they lie so frequently that it becomes almost like a second skin in which they are way too comfortable. In this class, ways to confront children who lie are discussed, as are ways to seek the truth from kids without impinging on the caregiver/child relationship.

 

THURSDAY JULY 16, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

CONVERSATIONS

Participants will identify the specific issues addressed in the films and also identify the specific emotions that were stirred up for you as a participant. Then we will explore our “track record.” What kinds of conversations do we have with the foster children about these issues and the emotions they stir up? Are they helpful conversations? Do they draw the foster children closer to us or push them away? Do our conversations leave them with the sense that we are like all the other adults in their lives who are only interested in controlling and changing them? Or do the conversations give them the sense that we are walking along side of them or perhaps carrying them as described in the Footprints poem? Or worse, is our track record one of avoidance? We are too uncomfortable to have such conversations, so we just don’t?

Participants together will generate very specific scripts for having conversations about the issues and emotions stirred up by yesterday’s film. Participants will have an opportunity to practice the scripts with each other. Participants will have an opportunity in subsequent classes to report back on the effectiveness of the conversations and make revisions.

 

Monday,  July 20, 2009

Foster Parent Association Meetings

First Church of God

2595 E. Date Street, Highland, CA 92346

Please call  (909) 855-0625 to confirm summer meeting.

 

 TUESDAY JULY 21, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

 MOVIE - THE CLASS

Participants will view a feature length film. While viewing the film, participants will have a copy of the discussion topics outlined above.

         

WEDNESDAY, JULY 22, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

MOVIE - THEN SHE FOUND ME

Participants will view a feature length film. While viewing the film, participants will have a copy of the discussion topics outlined above.

 

WEDNESDAY, JULY 22, 6:00 P.M. – 9:00 P.M.

HOT POTATO, HOT POTATO

Just like the game hot potato, children throw their anger very quickly. How caregivers respond to the anger is crucial for teaching healthy ways to vent it. With possible physical, sexual, emotional, verbal and substance abuse, PLUS the different types of neglect and homelessness by families of origin, foster children have every right to be angry. Caregivers can help their children by modeling proper methods for expressing anger. In this way, their children observe methods for dealing with anger without repressing it or demonstrating it in a negative manner. This class explores strategies for anger expression and discussion where children and their caregivers can both learn to deal with anger and still remain close in their relationships.

 

          THURSDAY JULY 23, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

CONVERSATIONS

Participants will identify the specific issues addressed in the films and also identify the specific emotions that were stirred up for you as a participant. Then we will explore our “track record.” What kinds of conversations do we have with the foster children about these issues and the emotions they stir up? Are they helpful conversations? Do they draw the foster children closer to us or push them away? Do our conversations leave them with the sense that we are like all the other adults in their lives who are only interested in controlling and changing them? Or do the conversations give them the sense that we are walking along side of them or perhaps carrying them as described in the Footprints poem? Or worse, is our track record one of avoidance? We are too uncomfortable to have such conversations, so we just don’t?

Participants together will generate very specific scripts for having conversations about the issues and emotions stirred up by yesterday’s film. Participants will have an opportunity to practice the scripts with each other. Participants will have an opportunity in subsequent classes to report on the effectiveness of the conversations and make revisions.

 

MONDAY, JULY 27, 6:00 P.M. – 9:00 P.M.

ARGUING PRACTICE

“If I’ve told you once, I’ve told you a thousand times!”…”Because I said so!”...“How many times do I have to tell you…?” “Just who do you think you are?”…These are just a few comments caregivers may find slipping from their lips when their “button” is pushed. Effective parents avoid arguing and learn effective communication skills where their children feel listened to and understood. If you feel a power struggle with your children, stop and voice your concerns to resolve the argument. Routines can deter an argument simply by pointing to the routine as the final arbiter. Giving children decision-making ability helps them gain some power and save face. In this class, we discuss various options and language parents can use to avoid arguing.

 

TUESDAY JULY 28, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

MOVIE - TSOTSI

Participants will view a feature length film. While viewing the film, participants will have a copy of the discussion topics outlined above.

 

WEDNESDAY, JULY 29, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

MOVIE - CHORUS LINE

Participants will view a feature length film. While viewing the film, participants will have a copy of the discussion topics outlined above.

 

WEDNESDAY, JULY 29, 6:00 P.M. – 9:00 P.M.

WHAT IS “SEXTING?”

“Sexting,” a take off on texting, is a new phenomenon where children send sexually explicit text messages. Children in the foster care system can be technologically competent but are seriously deficient in healthy and face-to-face communication and relationship building. They often use this form of communication to escape from the harsh reality of their lives. This class explores “sexting” and other facets of the computer age and how it impacts children. Techniques for building relationships and fostering positive communication are discussed. Participants learn methods for interacting with children in their care that promote a harmonious family environment and suggest how to better use technology in our high tech society.

 

          THURSDAY JULY 30, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

CONVERSATIONS

Participants will identify the specific issues addressed in the films and also identify the specific emotions that were stirred up for you as a participant. Then we will explore our “track record.” What kinds of conversations do we have with the foster children about these issues and the emotions they stir up? Are they helpful conversations? Do they draw the foster children closer to us or push them away? Do our conversations leave them with the sense that we are like all the other adults in their lives who are only interested in controlling and changing them? Or do the conversations give them the sense that we are walking along side of them or perhaps carrying them as described in the Footprints poem? Or worse, is our track record one of avoidance? We are too uncomfortable to have such conversations, so we just don’t? Participants together will generate very specific scripts for having conversations about the issues and emotions stirred up by yesterday’s film. Participants will have an opportunity to practice the scripts with each other. Participants will have an opportunity in subsequent classes to report on the effectiveness of the conversations and make revisions.

FALL TRAINING

 

The Fall training includes both individual classes as well as series classes. With Series Classes, you have two options:

ONE: We are encouraging you to attend all the classes in a series. You will receive a special certificate from the college indicating that you have completed the series.

TWO: If you are not able to attend the entire series of classes, you can attend any one or more classes and receive the hours and a certificate for each class attended.

 

ATTACHMENT SERIES

 

SIX CONSECUTIVE TUESDAYS

Tuesday September 01 through Tuesday October 06

 9:00 A.M. TO 12:00 P.M.

 

The diagnosis Reactive Attachment Disorder tends to imply that some folks do not attach. EVERYONE attaches. However, the quality of the relationship between the child and the caretakers dictates the quality and kind of the attachment. This class will study and explore the ingredients of attachment. Participants will learn specific skills to provide a secure attachment and specific skills to heal insecure avoidant, ambivalent, and chaotic attachments. In each class, participants will have an opportunity to present real life situations for brainstorming and problem solving. Participants will come away from this class with a basic understanding of neurobiology and attachment.

 

Class #1: September 01 Developing A Felt Sense of Self

Class #2: September 08 Is My Mind Separate From My Brain? YES!

Class #3: September 15 Why Children Need To Be Seen and Heard?

Class #4: September 22 Attachment and Brain Growth

Class #5: September 29 The ABC’s Of Attachment 10-13

Class #6: October 06 Attachment and Communication and Adaptation Patterns

 

PARENTING FROM THE INSIDE OUT SERIES

 

SIX CONSECUTIVE FRIDAYS

Friday, September 04 through Friday October 09

9:00 A.M. TO 12:00 P.M.

 

Parenting From The Inside Out is a classic work by Daniel Siegle and Mary Hartzell. This class will explore the parent child relationship necessary to make positive discipline techniques work for you. You will learn to identify the “stuff” from your own experiences of being parented and parenting to this point that continue to get in the way of practicing positive discipline effectively. As a bonus, participants will learn to use current computer technology and software to literally “publish” the life story of each child entrusted to their care. In each class, participants will have an opportunity to present real life situations for brainstorming and problem solving.

 

Class #1: September 04 The Way We Were Parented

Class #2: September 11 Forms of Memory

Class #3: September 18 Relationships and the Brain

Class #4: September 25 Constructing The Stories of Our Lives

Class #5: October 02 How Important Are Emotions?

Class #6: October 09 Learning To Communicate

 

DEVELOPMENTAL SERIES

 

SIX CONSECUTIVE TUESDAYS

Tuesday October 13 through Tuesday November 17

9:00 A.M. TO 12:00 P.M.

 

Some years back, I was on an Amtrak train that was required to travel backwards for forty five minutes because of a snow storm.  And then we had to stop and wait on a siding for the entire night. This is what happens to a foster child each time they are moved or removed. They regress, go backwards, sometimes farther and farther away from where they “should” be chronologically. There is no way for a child to avoid the regression. The same way that as much as I wanted to be closer to my destination after being on the train all night, the reality was I was practically back to where the train started.

 

As human beings, we move through specific stages of development. Participants will learn the specific challenges and specific needs associated with each stage. Participants will learn to recognize regressive behavior and be able to respond to the child’s regressed stage in contrast to being irritated that the child is not developmentally where they should be. In each class, participants will have an opportunity to present real life situations for brainstorming and problem solving. Participants will come away from this series with a “big picture” perspective of child and teen development and the skills necessary to respond to the developmental needs associated with the stage where the child actually is at the moment.

 

Class #1: October 13 Do I Pick Them Up When They’re Crying?

Class #2: October 20 What’s Normal for The Terrible Two’s?

Class #3: October 27 How Important Is Sharing?

Class #4: November 03 What Can You Expect Of Me From Age 6 to 12?

Class #5: November 10 Puberwhat?

Class #6: November 17 But I’m All Growed Up!

 

 

 GRIEF AND LOSS SERIES

 

SIX CONSECUTIVE FRIDAYS

Friday October 16 through Friday November 20

9:00 A.M. TO 12:00 P.M.

 

Losses are a dime a dozen. They really are. We rack up losses left and right as we move through our lifetime. True, some losses are huge. Sometimes, we do not have the internal resources to face a huge loss or to move through the loss experience to get to the other side. But a loss, big or small, requires grieving. If we do not actively and consciously grieve our losses, we will become stuck in the loss experience. People will tell us to move on, but we truly can’t. We are stuck. UNTIL, we grieve. What we most need are relationships that support us through the grieving process. It is especially critical if I am a little person to have big people on my side, to pull me through the swamp of sadness, to wash me off, to give me hope and a reason to move on.

 

Participants in the Grief and Loss series will learn to identify the variety of losses that foster children experience. Participants will learn to identify the “necessary” behaviors associated with the stages of loss and grief. Participants will have an opportunity to explore their personal grief work or lack of and how that impacts their ability to support foster children through their grief work. Participants will have an opportunity to present real life situations for brainstorming and problem solving.

 

Class #1: October 16 What Does A Loss Look Like?

Class #2: October 23 Healthy Expressions of Grief

Class #3: October 30 Depression and Anger: Necessary or Avoidable?

Class #4: November 06 Making Sense and Who’s To Blame

Class #5: November 13 Conversations about Loss and Death

Class #6: November 20 What Does The Future Hold?

 

 

***AUGUST 2009***

 

MONDAY, AUGUST 03, 6:00 P.M. – 9:00 P.M.

“ANTWONE FISHER”

The well known actor, Denzel Washington, bought the rights to, directed and starred in a film called “Antwone Fisher” where all the horrors of the foster care system are realistically shown. Based on a true story about a young boy who is abandoned by his drug-addicted mother, the film demonstrates how the system of care can all too easily fail children who so desperately need for it to protect them. Come join us in watching and discussing this excellent film, which shows the system of care with all it blemishes. For those who have not seen this film, you are in for an eye opening experience. For those who have seen it, watching it again hopefully reminds you just how very important your role is as caregivers.

 

 

WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 05, 6:00 P.M. – 9:00 P.M.

HOMELESS TO HARVARD

Liz Murray, born to drug addicted homeless parents, overcame incredible odds to actually attend Harvard University. She endured terrible difficulties, as do so many children in foster care who come from homeless circumstances over which they have no control. These children develop deep feelings of powerlessness, which can lead to depression. How does a caregiver handle a young person coming to their home from this situation? Sure, we swiftly provide them food, shelter and clothing which is a great start. But what do we do for that gnawing pain in their “gut” even though they have been well fed? Caregivers are encouraged to participate in this class to learn how to overcome homelessness as Liz Murray did.

 

THURSDAY, AUGUST 06, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

EXPLORING MY HISTORY

Have you ever explored your family tree? Do you know your family history? What is the oldest item that you own from your family? We sometimes take our family history for granted, but it has a significant impact on who we are today. Many of our children have histories that are fragmented or simply have huge gaps. It is so important to know where we have come from and where we are going. Let’s explore our histories!!

 

MONDAY, AUGUST 10, 6:00 P.M. – 9:00 P.M.

DIRTY DEEDS DONE DIRT CHEAP

This old song title accurately describes how improper behavior (“dirty deeds”) is commonly carried out by kids. And many foster children are up to their necks in lousy acting out. What these children need are effective boundaries and, when these are set, caregivers can expect children to follow them appropriately. When they don’t, caregivers should consistently and firmly give consequences for failing to follow rules. The opposite also holds true. When children follow rules, they deserve praise and encouragement that help them internalize the proper behaviors. This class explores how to best approach setting boundaries for youth so caregivers can build mutual respect between themselves and their children.

 

WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 12, 6:00 P.M. – 9:00 P.M.

COMPLICATED LOYALTIES

Most caregivers have fond memories of their parents, siblings, grandparents and other family members while they were growing up. Unfortunately, foster children have many negative memories of abuse and neglect. However, they hold their biological parents in great regard due to how they attached to them as they were being raised. Attachment disorder breeds these complicated loyalties. In their caregivers’ homes, they feel some ambivalence since they do not regard them the same way they do their own parents. The negative attachment they have for their family of origin gets in the way of their developing similar feelings for their foster parents. This class discusses how caregivers can encourage health bonding with children.

 

THURSDAY, AUGUST 13, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

BOUNDARY ISSUES

Many of our children have been subjected to situations in which their personal boundaries have not been respected and they, in turn, do not respect the boundaries of others. Many adults have not been taught to set specific boundaries with regard to their own children or the children they are currently parenting. Participants will have an opportunity to explore these issues and will be provided with tools to aid in setting and maintaining appropriate boundaries with others.

 

Monday, August 17, 2009

Foster Parent Association Meetings

First Church of God

2595 E. Date Street, Highland, CA 92346

Please call (909) 855-0625 to confirm summer meeting.

 

TUESDAY, AUGUST 18, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

SUPPORTING CHILDREN IN SCHOOL ADJUSTMENT AND SUCCESS

LOCATION: NORTH HALL 254

Foster children often move from home to home, which also requires changing schools. This class will provide caregivers with an understanding of the challenges children face with school moves. Learn how to assess children’s academic skills, support appropriate grade placement, advocate within the school system and assist children in developing effective coping skills during these challenging transitions and emotional losses

 

WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 19, 6:00 P.M. – 9:00 P.M.

BACKWARD BICYCLING

In the 1960s, children in my neighborhood were amazed by one father who was very adept at sitting on the handlebars of a bicycle and cycling backwards. Mr. Huhn was a very soft-spoken man who my older brother and I admired. His ability to backward cycle I could never master. Nowadays caregivers must be adept at mastering all sorts of parenting skills, which sometimes feel like they’re bicycling backwards since the children in their care can be so complex with their unique behaviors and issues. Come join this class that explores strategies for dealing with all sorts of negative behaviors by using approaches that treat children with respect but also demands their proper behavior. This results in healthy relationship building, parent to child.

 

THURSDAY, AUGUST 20, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

COPING WITH PAIN

Many children and individuals have experienced many losses over our lifetime. How does one manage the grief this creates? Many people choose to numb themselves, rather than cope with the pain that grief creates. Is this effective in the long run? Participants will have an opportunity to examine the grief process and where they are with the losses that they have experienced. Effective coping strategies will also be addressed.

 

MONDAY, AUGUST 24, 6:00 P.M. – 9:00 P.M.

NOURISHING RITUALS

Since they come from abusive and neglectful circumstances, foster children have no knowledge of family rituals. This class discusses important routines that surround a positive family experience such as meals together, doing chores, going to school, celebrating birthdays, and attending family social occasions, which all children need to experience in order to grow into responsible young people. This nourishing ritual experience can have a profound impact on children who never enjoyed these experiences. Caregivers in this class share their own family rituals, which can lead to not only a learning experience for all but, most importantly, a fresh and invigorating approach to raising responsible, mature and relationship adept children.

 

WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 26, 6:00 P.M. – 9:00 P.M.

BABY TALK

Babies cry in different ways: he wants to eat or feed; she wants to sleep; he wants to awake; she is cold; he is hot; her tummy hurts; he is overly tired; she wants her diaper changed; and he is scared or frightened, among many others. Further, babies will smile, laugh, coo or babble at different things: he is happy; she is content; he is satisfied; or she understands something. Correctly reading these cues or signals can be quite challenging for us as adults. We bond more effectively when we understand a baby correctly, which strengthens our relationship as the baby matures. Participants will learn how to “read” a baby’s signals and better interact with her.

 

THURSDAY, AUGUST 27, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

ATTACHMENT ISSUES, ADVOCATING FOR A CHILD’S NEEDS

LOCATION:  NORTH HALL 254

When we consider the fact that many of our children have had multiple placements, it becomes clear as to why it is difficult for them to form healthy attachments. What could possibly be the benefit in establishing a close relationship to anyone if a child is constantly moved to a new home? Participants will have an opportunity to explore the challenges children face in attaching to others. They will also receive tools and information to aid them in advocating for their child’s needs.

 

MONDAY, AUGUST 31, 6:00 P.M. – 9:00 P.M.

SELF INFLICTED VIOLENCE

The phenomenon of jewelry in the ear, tongue, nose, or other body part, is called “body piercing” and is a cosmetic social fad, which is not necessarily a danger to the wearer. What many foster parents are unaware of are children who intentionally slice or hurt themselves in an unhealthy manner. Called “cutting”, or self-inflicted violence, this can be a genuine cry for attention, a depression act or possibly suicidal ideation. It can also be called self-mutilation, self-harm, self-injury, self-injurious behavior and self-destructive behavior. This class explores this phenomena and addresses reasons for this type of acting out. Caregivers come away from this class better prepared to help their young person who has engaged in or may engage in this behavior.

 

***SEPTEMBER 2009***

 

TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 01, 9:00 A.M. - 12:00 P.M.

ATTACHMENT SERIES, CLASS #1

Developing A Felt Sense Of Self

 

THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 03, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

COMMUNICATION

Play-write George Bernard Shaw stated, "The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place." Improve your communication skills with family and agency personnel.

 

THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 03, 1:00 P.M. – 4:00 P.M.

MOMMY, WHY IS THAT MAN ACTING FUNNY?

Mental illness is seen most readily in our school systems where children act out in a negative or unusual manner. Observant teachers quickly see Attention Deficit Disorder, dyslexia and dysgraphia. Later on, depression, schizophrenia, anorexia, bulimia and bipolar disorder are also common in the childhood population. This class discusses these conditions and gives foster parents tools to identify and intervene with children in their care. Various medications and treatment methods for these conditions that mental health professionals use are covered in this class. Caregivers who work with children who have these mental conditions (or who they suspect have these conditions) are encouraged to attend this class.

 

FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 04, 9:00 A.M. - 12:00 P.M.

PARENTING FROM THE INSIDE OUT SERIES, CLASS #1

The Way We Were Parented

 

TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 08, 9:00 A.M. - 12:00 P.M.

ATTACHMENT SERIES, CLASS #2

Is My Mind Separate From My Brain? YES

 

WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER 09, 6:00 P.M. –9:00 P.M.

UNDERSTANDING LIFE LOSSES IN RELATION

TO CHILDREN IN THE FOSTER CARE SYSTEM (PART 1)

LOCATION:  NORTH HALL 254

This six hour, two-session course, outlines the life losses experienced by children placed in the Foster Care system. Through an exploration of the theorists, Dr. Kubler-Ross, Dr. Ken Doka and Dr. Erick Erickson, caregivers will be able to understand and identify the stages, styles and social-emotional needs of the children placed in their homes. Practical tools and interaction exercises will provide caregivers with techniques to assist children in developing coping skills for addressing past and future life losses.

 

THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 10, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

ADOPTING AND FOSTERING OLDER KIDS, WHY NOT?

When exploring the desires of most adoptive and foster families, most want to parent infants, toddlers, or very young children. Many have not considered the need of older children for adoption and foster care, or how rewarding it would be to provide a home for an older child. Why not parent an older child? Yes, there are some differences and some challenges, but nobody said it would be easy. Let’s explore the challenges, the benefits, and all the possibilities!!

 

 THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 10, 1:00 P.M. – 4:00 P.M.

STAGNANT + STRUGGLING VS. STEADFAST + STALWART

Children with no healthy support system or who come from families where their parents were abusive, neglectful and emotionally selfish find themselves caught in a stagnant way of living their lives. Full of lousy self-perceptions and struggling with learning what is appropriate behavior, they act out their inner turmoil. Caregivers understand the importance of remaining firm, fair and consistent with these children living with them. In addition, though, they need to show they are steadfast and stalwart with their children to teach them responsibility, respect and self value. These children pose challenging issues. Come join this class where we talk about stagnant and struggling children and the need for parents to be stalwart and steadfast.

 

FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 11, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.m.

PARENTING FROM THE INSIDE OUT SERIES, CLASS #2

Forms of Memory

 

SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 12, 9:00 A.M. – 4:00 P.M.

DEPARTURES AND GHOST TOWN

Six hours credit

Participants will view two films that address particular themes related to fostering and parenting. Participants will have an opportunity to discuss the content of the films in relationship to their personal experience as both parents and foster parents. Participants will have an opportunity to develop a “change plan” in response to what they learned from viewing the films and discussing the films.

 

MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 14, 6:00 P.M. – 9:00 P.M.

GOODNIGHT, MR. TOM

In Britain during World War II, children were sent to live in small villages in the countryside to provide a safer environment when the Nazi high command ordered the bombing of London. With this backdrop, a story comes out about an abused child from a mentally ill mother who goes to live with a reluctant and crusty widower who takes no nonsense in his child rearing. Called, Goodnight, Mr. Tom, this film depicts the ravages of abuse and mental illness with a loving and compassionate foster family. Although his parenting techniques, some of the British authorities call into question, Mr. Tom’s clear ability to form a healthy relationship wins the day. People in this class watch not only a fine movie but also see the real roles of fine care giving.

 

TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 15, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

ATTACHMENT SERIES, CLASS #3

Why Children Need To Be Seen And Heard?

 

WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER 16, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

KNOWLEDGE IS POWER: PREPARING CHILDREN FOR SCHOOL SUCCESS, KINDERGARTEN TO HIGH SCHOOL GRADUATION

Facilitator: Bernadette “Bunny” Pinchback

Manager, Foster Youth Services

San Bernardino County Superintendent of Schools

This workshop will provide information and tools to assist parents, guardians and caregivers in getting the best education for the children in their care. Participants will be provided with opportunities to problem solve school related issues and they will engage in hands-on activities. Participants who complete this workshop will have a better understanding of school structures, standardized testing and education laws that affect youth in foster care.

 

WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER 16, 6:00 P.M. - 9:00 P.M.

UNDERSTANDING LIFE LOSSES IN RELATION

TO CHILDREN IN THE FOSTER CARE SYSTEM (PART 2)

LOCATION:  NORTH HALL 254

This six hour, two-session course, outlines the life losses experienced by children placed in the Foster Care system. Through an exploration of the theorists, Dr Kubler-Ross, Dr Ken Doka and Dr Erick Erickson, caregivers will be able to understand and identify the stages, styles and social-emotional needs of the children placed in their homes. Practical tools and interaction exercises will provide caregivers with techniques to assist children in developing coping skills for addressing past and future life losses.

 

THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 17, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

THE NEGLECTED AND ABUSED CHILDREN IN YOUR CARE

Participants will learn how to create the proper home environment and provide appropriate parental care for these high-risk children.

 

THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 17, 1:00 P.M. – 4:00 P.M.

STRAY CATS AND DOGS

Dogs released into the community without any human attention or direction become feral in nature, gaining negative skills in searching for food and withdrawing from positive human contact. The same holds true for cats in that they search for food and sustenance by taking food and shelter from any place they can find it. Unfortunately, children who are treated like stray cats and dogs behave in all too similar ways. Their inability to achieve healthy socialization and propensity for unhealthy base behavior come out and caregivers are very challenged to find techniques in working with these children. This class covers different ways parents can use a strategy called Positive Discipline to interact with these children to form healthy relationships.

 

FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 18, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

PARENTING FROM THE INSIDE OUT SERIES, CLASS #3

Relationships And The Brain

 

Monday,  September 21, 2009

Foster Parent Association Meetings

First Church of God

2595 E. Date Street, Highland, CA 92346

Please call (909) 855-0625 for details and meeting time.

 

 

TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 22, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

ATTACHMENT SERIES, CLASS #4

Attachment And Brain Growth

 

THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 24, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

BRAIN DEVELOPMENT

Are children’s brains like adult brains? What happens to children’s brains as they develop? Are there critical stages for optimal development? Participants will have an opportunity to explore each of these questions.

 

THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 24, 1:00 P.M. – 4:00 P.M.

PARENT DEAF

Be sure to clean your room…That music is too loud…You’ve been on the phone longer than you said...

That guy is a bad news…Make certain to complete your homework…Let’s go to your Dr. appointment…

Statements and requests like these are legitimate for parents to make of their children. It is their way to teach them proper behavior and provide a stable home environment. What happens between parents saying these things and children hearing them and not following them? Can it be that there is a lack of trust, defiance to authority, and/or these kids are parent deaf? In this class, the reasons children behave in an oppositional way to their parents are explored and strategies of helping them learn, through positive discipline approaches, are reviewed.

 

FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 25, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

PARENTING FROM THE INSIDE OUT SERIES, CLASS #4

Constructing The Stories Of Our Lives

 

MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 28, 6:00 P.M. – 9:00 P.M.

WHAT IS A SNAFU?

The slang term SNAFU stands for Situation Normal, All Fouled Up. The companion term FUBAR stands for Fouled Up Beyond All Recognition. These terms were widely used by the G.I.s during World War II to describe the military bureaucracy’s decision-making efforts. When we look at the system of care that works with foster youth, at times caregivers feel compelled to use both terms in describing how children can end up being removed from perfectly good foster homes and placed with poorly skilled moms and dads. The terms are also used for decisions on parental visits, licensing issues and removing children. In this class, how the courts make decisions about children, social workers, foster parents and families of origin are discussed.

 

TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 29, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

ATTACHMENT SERIES, CLASS #5

The ABC’s of Attachment

 

WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER 30, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

IDENTIFYING AND SUPPORTING CHILDREN'S SPECIAL NEEDS

LOCATION:  NORTH HALL 254

Children in the foster system often manifest intellectual and emotional delays. This class will explore the most common types of special needs, discuss methods of evaluation and effective forms of treatment both by professionals and within the foster home.  ADA requirements will be reviewed.

 

 

***OCTOBER 2009***

 

THURSDAY, OCTOBER 1, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

IMPACT OF TRAUMA

We all know that children are placed in out of home care due to issues of abuse and neglect. Participants will have an opportunity to explore the impact that abuse, neglect, and the separation from biological parents have on children, the trauma that this causes, and the impact this has on the child’s developing brain.

 

THURSDAY, OCTOBER 01, 1:00 P.M. – 4:00 P.M.

FATHERS HELP KIDS GO FARTHER

Many foster kids come from families of origin with one parent and often that parent is a single mom who was abandoned when her children were young. Unfortunately, “fatherless families” result in a lack of consistency, low caring, hit and miss discipline, attachment issues, sexual identity concerns, and oppositional behavior. That is where foster fathers fill this void and demonstrate the positive dynamic of a two-parent family. Fathers teach the importance of bonding and reinforce how men look at life. Fathers demonstrate accountability and sound judgment, which children need in order to grow into responsible adults. Caregivers, both male and female, are encouraged to attend this class to learn how they can “go farther as a father.”

 

FRIDAY, OCTOBER 02, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

PARENTING FROM THE INSIDE OUT SERIES, CLASS #5

How Important Are Emotions?

 

MONDAY, OCTOBER 5, 6:00 P.M. – 9:00 P.M.

THE MARTIAN CHILD

Abandonment in the foster care system occurs regularly and children suffer untold issues of anger and rage, low self esteem, stealing things, sleep deprivation, social isolation, depression, bold faced lying and extreme distrust with adult figures. In the movie, The Martian Child, one particular child claims to actually be from Mars as a way of coping with his abandonment. The actor John Cusack plays a character who is a widowed man in need of a loving reattachment with another human being. He initially befriends this child and eventually adopts him after they both work through relationship issues. Through class discussion and interaction about this film, caregivers leave with a better sense of helping abandoned children in their care.

 

TUESDAY, OCTOBER 06, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

ATTACHMENT SERIES, CLASS #6

Attachment and Communication and Adaptation Patterns

 

THURSDAY, OCTOBER 8, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

WALK A MILE IN THEIR SHOES

Through a series of experiential exercises, participants will have an opportunity to discover, “first hand,” why abuse and neglect have such a profound effect on children. Clips from movies will also be displayed to aid caregivers in understanding their children’s behavior.

 

THURSDAY, OCTOBER 08, 1:00 P.M. – 4:00 P.M.

THIRTEEN GOING ON THIRTY

Early adolescence is a trying time for children and caregivers. Foster children from dysfunctional families are especially susceptible to negative influences such as poor school motivation, self-injurious or destructive behavior, sexual promiscuity, substance abuse, destructive social friendships, and immature interpersonal family relationships. To open the discussion of how thirteen-year-old adolescents are exposed to destructive adult behavior, the class watches the film “Thirteen.” The movie starts class discussion about the pitfalls of turning thirteen and shows how some children end up “…going on thirty.” Class attendees come away with a better sense of how to best “steer” children into adolescence and help them avoid these influences.

 

FRIDAY, OCTOBER 09, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

PARENTING FROM THE INSIDE OUT SERIES, CLASS #6

Learning To Communicate

 

MONDAY, OCTOBER 12, 6:00 P.M. – 9:00 P.M.

TEENS AND “TWEENS” HAVE MANY ASSETS

Teens and “tweens” hold many positive traits adults sometimes overlook. The SEARCH Institute did major research into what causes a young person to be substance abuse free, successfully complete high school, maintain healthy family relationships, develop strong peer associations and become a law abiding, contributing member of society. The researchers found that these assets assisted young people in leading more rounded and productive lives. This class introduces 40 assets to caregivers to insure they offer a family environment where teens and “tweens” benefit from these strategies. Participants in this class not only learn these assets but are also well versed in how to best implement them for strengthening bonds with their children.

 

TUESDAY, OCTOBER 13, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

DEVELOPMENTAL SERIES, CLASS #1

Do I Pick Them Up When They’re Crying?

 

WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 14, 9:00 A.M. –12:00 P.M.

UNDERSTANDING GRIEVING ASPECTS OF BEING A FOSTER PARENT

LOCATION:  NORTH HALL 254

Opening your home to children, in need provides great challenges and great rewards. One challenge is the grief caregivers and their families experience when children are removed from their home, regardless of the situation. This course explores the grief experiences of caregivers and discusses coping strategies, which assist both caregivers and their families with this natural aspect of being a caregiver.

 

THURSDAY, OCTOBER 15, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

CHILD ABUSE REPORTING IN CALIFORNIA AND

THE INVESTIGATIVE PROCESS

This training provides participants with the definition of child abuse, the step-by-step investigative process, and the role of the Juvenile Court.

 

THURSDAY, OCTOBER 15, 1:00 P.M. – 4:00 P.M.

BEDWETTING AND BED SOILING

Bedwetting (enuresis) and bed soiling (encopresis) are often a sensitive discussion for parents and their children since both behaviors have physiological and/or psychological origins. Parents have used all kinds of remedies such as “hanging up” soiled bed sheets, to yelling at children to “STOP,” with mostly mixed results. These old style techniques oftentimes end up with both parents and children being frustrated, resentful and angry. Children who come from family situations where emotional, physical and sexual abuse is rampant, in particular, can suffer from these challenging problems. Caregivers attending this class learn what can cause these conditions and learn effective and practical approaches to dealing with bedwetting and soiling.

 

FRIDAY, OCTOBER 16, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

GRIEF AND LOSS SERIES, CLASS #1

What Does A Loss Look Like?

 

SATURDAY, OCTOBER 17, 9:00 A.M. – 4:00 P.M.

MILK AND SUNSHINE CLEANING

Six hours credit

Participants will view two films that address particular themes related to fostering and parenting. Participants will have an opportunity to discuss the content of the films in relationship to their personal experience as both parents and foster parents. Participants will have an opportunity to develop a “change plan” in response to what they learned from viewing the films and discussing the films.

 

Monday, October 19, 2009

Foster Parent Association Meetings

First Church of God

2595 E. Date Street, Highland, CA 92346

Please call (909) 855-0625 for details and meeting time.

.

TUESDAY, OCTOBER 20, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

DEVELOPMENTAL SERIES, CLASS #2

 What’s Normal For The Terrible Two’s?

 

WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER  21, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

Coping with Grief during Holidays

LOCATION:  NORTH HALL 254

In our society, we want children to be happy, especially during holidays. Unfortunately, holidays often bring additional stress and emotional pain for the children in Foster placement. This course will explore the emotional conflicts experienced by children and how caregivers can create positive memories through understanding and reasonable expectations.

 

THURSDAY, OCTOBER 22, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

BEHAVIOR PROBLEMS WITH K - MIDDLE SCHOOL CHILDREN

This training covers common reasons why children act out and the techniques for correcting poor behavior.

 

THURSDAY, OCTOBER 22, 1:00 P.M. – 4:00 P.M.

IS YOUR CHILD A BULLY, OR BEING BULLIED?

Children, who self disclose they have been removed from their families of origin due to neglect and other issues, unwittingly leave themselves wide open to being bullied by other children. Worse, these same children, who have seen and experienced physical abuse and domestic violence, may turn that same pain and anger outward into bullying others. And those who have access to the internet and cell phones, as do so many children nowadays, may use these hi-tech options to bully others or be bullied themselves. Called “Cyberbullying,” this form of bullying has rapidly become a major problem in our society. This class explores for caregivers what their role is in assisting children in ways to avoid, deal with and prevent bullying and being bullied.

 

FRIDAY, OCTOBER 23, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

GRIEF AND LOSS SERIES, CLASS #2

Healthy Expressions of Grief

 

MONDAY, OCTOBER 26, 6:00 P.M. – 9:00 P.M.

SUBSTANCE ABUSE I: ILLEGAL SUBSTANCES

Foster children are especially susceptible to substance abuse due to their immature decision making skills, low self-esteem and negative parenting. Caregivers need to be better informed about the illegal substances out there that attract them. This class explores the use of methamphetamines, RAVE party drugs (MDMA – methylenedioxymethamphetamine, “Ecstasy” & GHB – gammahydroxybutyrate, “Georgia Home Boy”), cocaine, PCP, LSD, marijuana and heroin, which can all create addictive personalities. Participants leave this class better equipped to deal with substance abuse issues and learn the symptoms of illegal drug use, facts about the drugs themselves, how to prevent their use and their impact on our society.

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TUESDAY, OCTOBER 27, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

DEVELOPMENTAL SERIES, CLASS #3

How Important Is Sharing?

 

WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 28, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

LEARNING STARTS AT HOME:HELPING CHILDREN COMPLETE HOMEWORK AND SCHOOL ASSIGNMENTS

Facilitator: Bernadette “Bunny” Pinchback

Manager, Foster Youth Services

San Bernardino County Superintendent of Schools

How often have you heard these excuses? “I did my homework at school.” “We didn’t get any homework today.” The truth is that resistance to doing homework is quite common for children who may have experienced interruptions in attendance or who have difficulties with schoolwork in general. This workshop will include a variety of hands-on activities that can be used at home. This workshop will also provide participants with practical ways to help children become better students by teaching them what we already know!

 

WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 28, 6:00 P.M. – 9:00 P.M.

The Importance of Positive Male Role Models in Children’s Lives

LOCATION:  NORTH HALL 254

Research shows that children who have a strong positive male influence in their life are more successful. This class will explore the unique influence men have on children’s development and why it is important to ensure that children have an ongoing relationship with their father or father figure. 

 

THURSDAY, OCTOBER 29, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

CHALLENGING BEHAVIORS

Many of our children have been subjected to abuse, neglect, and domestic violence. Does this cause to them to act out? Does this explain why children hoard food, lie, are physically and verbally aggressive, have difficulty managing their daily hygiene needs, are defiant, and tend to cause embarrassment in public places?

 

THURSDAY, OCTOBER 29, 1:00 P.M. – 4:00 P.M.

SUBSTANCE ABUSE II: LEGAL SUBSTANCES USED ILLEGALLY

As a companion class to Substance Abuse I this class discusses legal substances used illegally. The problem is growing in severity in the “tween,” teen, and young adult populations. Prescription medication abuse (Vicodin & Oxycontin), and cough syrup (containing DXM–dextromethorphan) abuse, has expanded substantially with these age groups in the last decade. The use of inhalants (glue, paint, correction fluid, computer spray, whipped cream, gas, etc.), alcohol and nicotine all can cause extreme health consequences for the user, including death. The reality is these substances are legal and easily obtained. This class explores reasons children use and abuse these substances and offers specific means for preventing this serious problem.

 

FRIDAY, OCTOBER 30, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

GRIEF AND LOSS SERIES, CLASS #3

Depression And Anger; Necessary or Avoidable

 

***NOVEMBER 2009***

 

MONDAY, NOVEMBER 02, 6:00 P.M. – 9:00 P.M.

ARE TWO-YEAR OLDS LIKE TWEENS?

Learning the “no” word, tantrums and crying jags are all two-year-old behaviors. When we dissect this phenomenon even more, we can recognize that “tweens”, who are children between the ages of eight and twelve, share many of these same characteristics with two-year-olds. They too, need to relearn the “no” word, also throw tantrums and cry, all in an effort to gain even more independence from their parents and surroundings. Isn’t it amazing that these far removed age groups have so much in common? Caregivers are encouraged to attend this class where these personality and behavior traits are discussed. Parents can then gain a better understanding of their children to see how two-year olds and tweens have so much in common.

 

TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 03, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

DEVELOPMENTAL SERIES, CLASS #4

What Can You Expect Of Me, Ages Six To Twelve?

 

WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER  04, 6:00 P.M. – 9:00 P.M.

SUPPORTING CHILDREN WITH INCARCERATED PARENTS

LOCATION:  NORTH HALL 254

Separation from parents is always traumatic. Children whose parents are incarcerated have additional challenges that impact their lives. This class explores the current theories on parent-child relationships, the pros and cons of prison visitation by children and the social emotional impact child and adult behavior. Methods of communication and supportive coping skills for both adults and children will be discussed.

 

THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 05, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

HOW TO COPE WITH OUR EMOTIONAL SIDE

Adults experience many emotions during the course of a week. Participants have the opportunity to explore "hot button" emotions that create discomfort and anxiety in daily life. Poor emotional management can affect relationships and parental judgment.

 

THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 05, 1:00 P.M. – 4:00 P.M.

DOES GRANDPARENTHOOD = PARENTHOOD?

It used to be that once we had raised our children, and then THEY had children, we could enjoy being a grandparent. Our grandchildren would come for a visit and we could spoil them with candy, let them skip their nap and then they would go home with their parents. In our modern society, sometimes that older generation not only has to forego giving candy but also has to put their grandchildren down for a nap and then they stay because they ARE at home already. With rampant substance abuse, families torn apart and deliberate parental abuse and neglect, the juvenile court is turning more and more to relative caregivers, specifically, grandparents. This class discusses this new approach to providing an extended family support system for children.

 

FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 06, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

GRIEF AND LOSS SERIES, CLASS #4

Making Sense And Who’s To Blame?

 

SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 07, 9:00 A.M. – 4:00 P.M.

IS THERE ANYBODY THERE? AND THE SOLOIST

Six hours credit

Participants will view two films that address particular themes related to fostering and parenting. Participants will have an opportunity to discuss the content of the films in relationship to their personal experience as both parents and foster parents. Participants will have an opportunity to develop a “change plan” in response to what they learned from viewing the films and discussing the films.

 

MONDAY, NOVEMBER 09, 6:00 P.M. – 9:00 P.M.

FAMILY MEETINGS

How come he receives a bigger allowance than me?...Why can’t I stay out past 10 PM?...Why can’t I get a car?...How come I have to finish my homework? Family Meetings help caregivers face these and other questions. Caregivers and children open healthy discussion over their issues in these meetings, which are especially valuable for foster children since so often any decisions made in their families of origin excluded them entirely. These meetings assist parents in teaching accountability, responsibility, decision-making and social skills in children. This class covers Positive Discipline concepts that caregivers can employ to expand their parenting skills “toolbox.” This added skill of family meetings assists children in growing and flourishing.

 

TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 10, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

DEVELOPMENTAL SERIES, CLASS #5

Puberwhat?

 

TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 10, 6:00 P.M. – 9:00 P.M.

UNDERSTANDING LIFE LOSSES IN RELATION TO CHILDREN

 IN THE FOSTER CARE SYSTEM (PART 1)

LOCATION:  NORTH HALL 254

This six hour, two-session course, outlines the life losses experienced by children placed in the Foster Care system. Through an exploration of the theorists, Dr. Kubler-Ross, Dr. Ken Doka and Dr. Erick Erickson, caregivers will be able to understand and identify the stages, styles and social-emotional needs of the children placed in their homes. Practical tools and interaction exercises will provide caregivers with techniques to assist children in developing coping skills for addressing past and future life losses.

 

 

THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 12, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

MEETING THE NEEDS OF FOSTER AND ADOPTIVE CHILDREN

We all know that abuse and neglect have a major impact on children’s behavior. However, we are not always sure about what children need to aid them in the healing process. Participants will have an opportunity to explore the needs of children in their care and how they can best meet their children’s needs.

 

THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 12, 1:00 P.M. – 4:00 P.M.

FAMILY MEALS

Conflicting issues prevent families from preparing food, sitting down and eating together. Caregivers should not be deterred since research indicates the family that has family meals has a very good chance at lowering teen pregnancy, school dropout rates, “gangbanging”, substance abuse and eating disorders among the children in their family. Caregivers need to work hand in hand with the children in their care to insure that children eat at least 5-7 meals with them, AS A FAMILY, on a weekly basis. This class, using Positive Discipline approaches, offers advice and suggestions on how to guarantee that ALL family members participate in mealtime. In this way, natural bonding and conversation that goes with eating together can occur.

 

FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 13, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

GRIEF AND LOSS SERIES, CLASS #5

Conversations About Loss And Death

 

Monday, November 16, 2009

Foster Parent Association Meetings

First Church of God

2595 E. Date Street, Highland, CA 92346

Please call (909) 855-0625 for details and meeting time.

 

TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 17, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

DEVELOPMENTAL SERIES, CLASS #6

But I’m All Growed-Up

 

TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 17, 6:00 P.M.. – 9:00 P.M.

UNDERSTANDING LIFE LOSSES IN RELATION TO CHILDREN

IN THE FOSTER CARE SYSTEM (PART II)

LOCATION:  NORTH HALL 254

This six hour, two-session course, outlines the life losses experienced by children placed in the Foster Care system. Through an exploration of the theorists, Dr. Kubler-Ross, Dr. Ken Doka and Dr. Erick Erickson, caregivers will be able to understand and identify the stages, styles and social-emotional needs of the children placed in their homes. Practical tools and interaction exercises will provide caregivers with techniques to assist children in developing coping skills for addressing past and future life losses.

 

WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 18, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

HOPES AND DREAMS:

ENCOURAGING CHILDREN TO PERFORM WELL IN SCHOOL

Facilitator: Bernadette “Bunny” Pinchback

Manager, Foster Youth Services

San Bernardino County Superintendent of Schools

When a child is born, the parents always want the best for that new baby and soon that child begins to dream about what they want to be when they grow up. However, this may not always be the case for youth in foster care. Participants will learn how to help children rekindle their dreams and make educational plans and goals using storytelling, activities and discussions.

 

THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 19, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

POSITIVE DISCIPLINE

The goal of positive discipline is to achieve positive long-term results in a responsible and cooperative manner with the children in your care. Participants learn new techniques on how to use discipline as a skill builder for your child.

 

THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 19, 1:00 P.M. – 4:00 P.M.

FETAL ALCOHOL SPECTRUM DISORDER

Fetal Alcohol Spectrum is a continuum of disorders on the unborn fetus associated with the use alcohol by pregnant women. Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS), a 100% preventable condition, has a devastating impact on children developing in utero. This totally unnecessary condition significantly taxes our overburdened educational, foster care and health care systems. Women who drink alcohol while pregnant need to be informed of this issue. Class topics include medical conditions, identification, intervention, academic issues and strategies for effectively dealing with FAS in infants and children. Class participants take an early assessment of their knowledge of this condition and learn identifying factors for FAS children in their care.

 

FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 20, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

GRIEF AND LOSS SERIES, CLASS #6

What Does The Future Hold?

 

MONDAY, NOVEMBER 23, 6:00 P.M. – 9:00 P.M.

CHESTNUTS ROASTING ON AN OPEN FIRE…

Nat “King” Cole’s lyrics take us back to a holiday season filled with childhood glee and turkey dinner. Many of us have very fond memories of these times. What is missing is the “busy-ness” of the holidays and dealing with issues we at times prefer to avoid. The whole holiday season, from Thanksgiving, to Hanukah, Ramadan, Kwanzaa, Christmas and New Year, can create tension and stress. This class explores how caregivers sometimes need to rethink the season and learn strategies for coping with inevitable problems. Various coping strategies, such as one-minute vacations and breathing techniques, combined with some self-assessments, help participants to understand the beauty and wonder of the entire holiday season.

 

TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 24, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

THANKSGIVING SPECIAL

CREATING A FOSTER HOME

FULL OF ABUNDANCE AND GRATITUDE

Many of the foster kids under your care may not have any awareness that there is anything to be thankful for. For those of you who have endured poverty, abuse, misfortune and mishap, but have come through it, you may have little or no understanding of a kid’s lack of gratitude, especially if they have been living in your foster home for a number of years. Yes, it is difficult to understand that your caring for them has not brought them farther down that road. Participants will learn simple “by example” methods for instilling gratitude, abundance, and compassion in the children under their care. Participants will have an opportunity to present real-life “kids” who drive them crazy because of their lack of gratitude and compassion, and we will brainstorm and problem solve ways for us as foster parents to respond to their lack.

 

MONDAY, NOVEMBER 30, 6:00 P.M. – 9:00 P.M.

BOUNDARIES FOR CHILDREN

Children test limits that parents set for them. Let’s face it – they really don’t know any better since they are immature and don’t understand yet what is best for them. That’s why it is so important that parents use positive and appropriate techniques for helping children learn what their boundaries are and the best ways to behave. This class discusses avoiding arguing, using action vs. talking, limited choices giving one word direction and making a reasonable request in ten words or less. Using a signal, avoiding nagging, sharing feelings, and describing behavior are also reviewed. Caregivers are given an opportunity, through a hands-on approach, to practice these methods in this class that supports the tenets of Positive Discipline.

 

***DECEMBER 2009***

         

TUESDAY, DECEMBER 01, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

ARE YOU A MARTYR DURING THE HOLIDAYS? WELL, STOP IT!

Do you have some notions, some big notions, about how the holidays SHOULD be? Do you attempt to bake every favorite family holiday pastry? Do you go to bed on Christmas Eve feeling totally exhausted and even more so on Christmas night? Do you fall off to sleep feeling disappointed that no one appreciates all that you do? Do you identify with the early Christian martyrs? Well, as the title suggests, STOP IT! Give it up! NO, don’t give up doing all the wonderful things you do for everyone over the holidays. Just stop being a martyr about it. I know, easy for me to say! Participants will learn simple stress management tools. Participants will learn how to acquire absolute clarity about everything they want to say YES to and everything they want to say NO to, and then do it!

 

TUESDAY, DECEMBER 01, 6:00 P.M. – 9:00 P.M.

COPING WITH GRIEF DURING THE HOLIDAYS

LOCATION:  NORTH HALL 254

In our society, we want children to be happy, especially during holidays. Unfortunately, often holidays bring additional stress and emotional pain for the children in foster placement. This course will explore the emotional conflicts experienced by children and how caregivers can create positive memories through understanding and reasonable expectations.

 

WEDNESDAY, DECEMBER 02, 9:00 A.M. –12:00 P.M.

UNDERSTANDING ANGER IN RELATION TO LIFE LOSSES

LOCATION:  NORTH HALL 254

Children and adults in mourning often become “stuck” in the grief stage of anger. Learn how to identify and support the process of grief that is driving unchecked anger and rage so that children and adults can live calmer and peaceful lives.

 

FRIDAY, DECEMBER 04, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

WHAT ARE PRESENTS ABOUT? HOW MUCH SHOULD YOU GIVE?

Okay, who started this giving presents thing? Now that Santa Claus has lost his 401k, is he going to be cutting back this year? What are presents about anyway? Do you give presents because the child deserves them, or do you give them as gifts, just because? That can be a lengthy discussion! Do you still remember how many presents you got or didn’t get? Should that matter in this discussion? Well, maybe and maybe not! Do you try extra hard to make sure everyone has the same number of gifts under the tree? That’s a trick! Moreover, it could be a pretty costly one at that! So let’s get down to business on this one. It’s still early enough to make a few adjustments on the lists! Maybe, just maybe, we can discover why we give what we give and why we don’t give what we don’t give. Participants will explore the meaning of gifts and discuss how gift giving applies to the holidays at your foster home.

 

TUESDAY, DECEMBER 08, 9:00 A.M. – 12:00 P.M.

HOLIDAY BEHAVIOR CHALLENGES: DO YOU TELL SANTA?

There are plenty of good reasons why children and teens might be at their worst during the upcoming holidays. Don’t ruin your holidays by trying to control behavior that might be beyond your control. Yes, you must respond to the behavior, and you want to use all your best skills to make some behaviors just plain disappear and others to absolutely flourish. So come to this class to learn how to manage the best and the worst behavior. Participants will learn some simple rules of thumb to increase the behaviors you want to see more of and to “poof” the behaviors that you don’t want to tolerate. Participants will also learn how to ignore the ignorable and how to determine what is ignorable.

 

SATURDAY, DECEMBER 12, 9:00 A.M.  – 4:00 P. m.

 THE STONING OF SARIAH M. AND EVERY LITTLE STEP

6 hours credit

Participants will view two films that address particular themes related to fostering and parenting. Participants will have an opportunity to discuss the content of the films in relationship to their personal experience as both parents and foster parents. Participants will have an opportunity to develop a “change plan” in response to what they learned from viewing the films and discussing the films.